Wednesday, August 21st, 2013

How to Raise Happy Kids

Think of the smile that appears on your child’s face when he’s enjoying an ice cream cone. Those are the moments and feelings we all want to preserve. But once the last drip is licked, what happens to that happy feeling? Does it just go away? Or is it something deeper inside? Can happiness be learned? Or must we be “born” happy? What is happiness anyway?
Happiness is the one thing that parents want their children to have. A happy kid goes on to becoming a positive, self confident individual who believes in all the good things in life. But raising happy and well behaved kids is a challenging task for the parents. There is no magic wand that will spread all the love and happiness in your child’s life. Raising happy kids require the patience of a saint and a lot of unconditional love.

In addition to feeding your kids, educating them and keeping them safe and sound, here are the some secrets to raise happy kids.
Quit Yelling Unnecessarily. Try to yell 50% less. Unless you are the perfect parent (and then why are you reading this?) you probably yell at your kids sometimes. When I talk to moms and dads (and I did a lot for my TV show Parental Discretion) I found that the number one thing parents feel guilty about is yelling at their kids too much. So rather than turning over a new leaf constantly where you are “never going to yell again” try just reducing it by half. The next time your kids are aggravating you and you are about to yell, ask yourself if they are truly misbehaving or if they are just annoying you. If they are just being annoying, ie: too loud, too rough, too whiney, leave the room for a few minutes instead.

Foster a can-do attitude. This is one of the most reliable defenses against depression and despair at any age. Children watch and learn from how you deal with disappointment, be it in your career or at an athletic event or even just in being cut off in traffic. You can encourage competition, making sure that your child experiences both victory and defeat, and help her deal with each. You can use humor to deal with the pain, or bits of philosophy, or simply let your children see that you never give up.

Don’t aim for perfection as nobody’s perfect. Accept and love them the way they are. Trying to change their personalities will only stress you both out. So let your kids be their own original self.

Discipline means to teach, not punish. Raising a happy child requires a lot of discipline. Teaching your child discipline means to set the right example. Children do as they see, not as they are told. Unless you do the right thing, expecting your child to behave morally is a waste of time.

Pretend and play. Unstructured play hones children’s imagination, teaches critical problem-solving skills, and trains them to tolerate frustration. It also helps children learn that doing things again and again leads to improvement. In fact, play is the most important “work” your child can do. Practice, as part of structured activity, trains children how to receive help and get the most from other adults, such as good teachers and coaches.

Provide recognition. The feeling of being valued by others (friends, family, community) is key. You can exert a tremendous positive influence through the recognition you offer. We adults too quickly forget how much it meant to us when we were young — it meant the world to us, and to children today it still does.

Few Points Spouse Wise

Watch Your Tone With Your Spouse Yeah, you heard right! I said to be respectful of your partner! There’s no bigger example that kids take into the rest of their lives than how their parents relate to each other. If you live at home with your spouse, be nice! Be friendly. Joke around. Don’t be a drill sergeant or speak to them like they are the biggest irritant on the planet. It makes kids feel insecure.
Try Find Your Own Happiness Happy parents make happy kids and the reverse is also true. If you are frustrated with your life and feel that you are making too many sacrifices those feelings will spill over. Kids are like sponges, when you are in a crap mood all the time kids tend to feel it’s because of them consequently if you are joyful and fulfilled your kids will feel that as well. Another reason to find your own happiness is so that your kids won’t feel the responsibility to make you happy.

Finally always remember that a good rule of thumb is to keep it simple and enjoy your children. You can’t buy happiness — it is learned and earned. But once they have developed a solid can-do attitude, children are set with skills to which they can return throughout their lives.

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